Breastfeeding mom dilemma: If I could just not hear “Edi wala kang trabaho, sa bahay ka lang pala”
I have been breastfeeding exclusively my toddler, who’s now 2 years old since she was 2 months, and often times, when people learn that I am breastfeeding her, the unsolicited comment that I would hear is “Edi wala kang trabaho, sa bahay ka lang pala”
First off, there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom. In fact, that is a very difficult job (well, of course, being a full time working mom is another thing, and I couldn’t just imagine how tired they can get). Stay at home moms shall NEVER be seen as “less”. It’s not a 9-5 job. It’s “from-the-moment-I-open–my-eyes-til-I-shut-em” job. The work just never ends – preparing food for the whole day, cleaning and tidying up the whole house, washing the dishes, doing the laundry, attending to the kids’ needs, bathing, feeding, playing with them and teaching them everything, that’s just a fraction of what a stay at home mom does.
The last thing they need to hear is “sa bahay ka lang pala”. Please do not degrade if moms choose/need to stay at home, in fact, they have to be looked up to. Show them that much needed appreciation. What’s a home gonna be if mom’s not there? I once watched this video where a mum stopped being a “mum”, and everything just turned into a mess, literally in figuratively. That’s the only time her family saw her value.
Now, with regards to breastfeeding, it is definitely is not easy. Breastfeeding is a commitment, and just like relationships, it comes with a lot of sacrifices. Totally not easy especially during the first few weeks. But mamas, please don’t give up. Trust me, it gets easier and easier. Until you can’t get enough of it and you wouldn’t want to wean your kids because of the priceless and incomparable bonding. Nothing beats knowing that you give your kids life. The fact that only you can give their primary needs of nutrition.
Plus, breastfeeding boosts baby’s optimal brain development, protects baby from certain types of cancer, reduces risk of ear infections and gastroenteritis, obesity, SIDS, and the list goes on. And needless to say, you get to save tons and tons of money!
Breastfeeding is beautiful. Breastfeeding is wonderful.